What Happened to Patriotism?

When did patriotism become a bad word? I remember when the World Trade Center was attacked in 2001. I was a freshman in college and I remember watching the news footage that morning being absolutely petrified. The days following this horrific event showed American’s coming together in a way they had never come together before. We were proud to be American’s in 2001 and we allowed our pride to bring us together to support one another during that terrible time. The American Flag was flown from every porch, building and many cars as it was a reminder of how great our nation was and it gave us all hope for the future.

I am still proud to be an American and I believe that we live in one of the greatest countries in the world. Yet in 2019 a statement like this is often met with criticism and hatred. Somehow being a proud American now holds a negative connotation. The American Flag no longer represents purity, valor, or justice instead people now believe that it represents racism and division. The Pledge of Allegiance is also under attack for being divisive and is no longer being recited in many schools and government institutions. This past 4th of July I saw numerous Facebook post from friends and family members stating that they couldn’t celebrate the holiday because there were people in this country who didn’t have freedom.

People seem to forget that if you are an AMERICAN CITIZEN that you do have freedoms. Freedoms that are not available in many other countries. Instead people want to focus on the fact that we have men, women and children being detained at our southern border because they want to live in our country. The problem is that these individuals are making a CHOICE to cross our border illegally. They are not being detained because they are a certain demographic. They are being detained because they are breaking the law. I understand that some of these individuals are coming here to reunite with family or to seek safety but it doesn’t change the fact that they are doing so illegally. They are endangering their children and themselves by making the difficult trek through rough terrain and through dangerous territory.

I am not a heartless individual and my heart breaks for the children involved in this horrible situation. We have a real crisis on our southern border and Congress has been turning a blind eye to this for far too long. Now many politicians want to use this situation to push a political agenda one that is turning American’s against one another. There has been a lot of finger pointing and blame but no action to correct the situation. We need to discourage illegal border crossing and figure out a way to overhaul our immigration system. If our elected officials spent a little time working on this problem rather than playing blame game they could fix this situation.

The American Flag is not divisive or racist it is our liberal politicians pushing this mindset creating an illusion of division. These politicians are more concerned with the welfare of those illegally entering our country than they are with true American citizens. American’s need to start thinking for themselves and remembering what it means to be an American. In the United States of America we can have differences of opinions but at the end of the day the very fact that we are American should bring us together. Abraham Lincoln warned us that a house divided would fall and it seems that this is what many politicians want to happen. Why? So they can gain control and strip us of the very freedoms we take for granted.

Regardless of your thoughts or feelings on illegal immigration or any other issue it shouldn’t change how you feel about your country. I will continue to be a proud American and I will continue to raise my children to have respect for their country. Patriotism is not a bad word it simply means that you support your country. Shouldn’t you support the country you live in?

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The Importance of the Electoral College

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Since our last presidential election in 2016 we have heard a number of politicians and media personalities discussing whether or not we should continue using the electoral college in our elections. Now it seems that discussion has turned to action as a number of democrats have gathered together to submit a measure to congress that would remove the electoral college in future elections.

The scariest thing about this is how many people especially younger voters seem to thing this is a great idea. They believe that by removing the electoral college that it will make the election process more fair. In my opinion this is the result of our poor education system in this country. The electoral college is in place to make the voting process as fair as possible by giving every state a voice in the election regardless of population. If this measure is approved elections would be determined by the popular vote which means that populous states like California, Texas, New York and Florida would hold all of the power. There would be no need for United States citizens in other states to vote because their vote wouldn’t carry the same weight if any weight at all.

Our founding founders devised the Electoral College because they wanted the voting powers to be equally distributed throughout the United States. While it may not be a perfect system it is the best way for each and every citizen to have their vote recognized and counted. I believe that removing the Electoral College will destroy Democracy in the United States and threaten the foundation this country was built upon.

I am very concerned about the state of our politics and our country in general. We have so many children graduating from high school without the ability to think critically, and without adequate knowledge of history and government. I have spoken with a number of teens and young adults who have expressed a desire to see the electoral college abolished yet can’t provide a reasonable argument to support their opinion. Schools are supposed to teach children HOW to think they aren’t supposed to teach children WHAT to think. This is  dangerous behavior because these children are being taught to think a specific way and then they go on to be voters.

Our future is dependent on our youth and all educators including those of us who homeschool; we have a duty to teach our children HOW to research, think and form valid arguments. Research and education will highlight the importance of the Electoral College in our voting process. The right to vote is an important one and it should never be done lightly because it is our civic duty to be informed and active participants in our government. That way we can “all” ensure that the values and rights established by our founding fathers in the Constitution can be upheld for generations to come.

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https://thehill.com/homenews/house/423810-dem-introduces-bills-to-eliminate-electoral-college-stop-presidents-from

https://www.foxnews.com/politics/senate-dems-introduce-bill-to-abolish-electoral-college

https://www.thenation.com/article/democrats-need-to-get-rid-of-the-electoral-college/

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A Homeschooling Mom’s Stance on Abortion

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Many women like to argue that abortion is their right because they have the right to do what they want with their own bodies. Some argue that abortions are necessary to help women who have been victims of rape and incest. Others think that it is some sort of rite of passage and that all women should experience an abortion at least once in their lifetime. I find this not only troubling but down right horrifying that so many people are okay with women aborting their babies. In fact the state of New York just signed The Reproductive Health Act into law which allows women to abort their babies up to 24 weeks for any reason and up to the baby’s due date if the mother expresses a health issue like stress. I don’t care what the circumstances are abortion is murder and murder should be illegal.

Abortion statistics from the CDC and the Guttmacher Institute show that the largest number of abortions occur among unmarried women in their 20s. Less than 1% of women who underwent abortions reported being a victim of rape or incest as their reason for receiving the procedure. In fact most women who received the procedure reported that they were making the decision because the baby would impact their life path in what they felt was a negative way. Basically, they made a mistake and instead of taking on the challenge of motherhood they instead want to erase their actions with an abortion.

I believe that women have the right to make choices with their own body but abortion is not a choice it is an immoral act. If you are not ready for children for one reason or another then don’t engage in sexual activity abstinence won’t kill you I promise. Whenever you engage in sexual activity there is a possibility that you will get pregnant and you have a responsibility to carry that child to viability. If you don’t want to be a parent you can place your child up for adoption there are so many wonderful people out there who want to be parents.

I don’t believe that children are consequences. I believe that children are blessings from God. As a society we should be finding ways to help young people find the support they need to make good choices. Women need to set good examples for their daughters so their daughters can make good decisions about sexual relationships. Men need to set good examples for their sons and teach their sons that they have responsibilities as well. Hollywood actresses shouting their abortions shouldn’t be role models for our children instead they should be cautionary tales uses to teach life lessons. We need to teach our children that life is not a video game where you can just hit reset and start fresh. In life OUR CHOICES determine the path we take in life and we have a responsibility to accept the path and learn how to navigate the rough patches.

Abortion doesn’t stop you from being a parent it makes you a parent who decided that you were too selfish and scared to allow your child the right to life.
Sources:

https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/67/ss/ss6713a1.htm

https://abort73.com/abortion_facts/us_abortion_statistics/

https://www.guttmacher.org/sites/default/files/pdfs/tables/370305/3711005t3.pdf

https://www.guttmacher.org/fact-sheet/induced-abortion-united-states

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-46994583

 

Baby, It’s Crazy Outside!

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A radio station in Northwest Ohio recently yanked “Baby, It’s Cold Outside” a song written in the 1940s that has become a popular Christmas classic because it supposedly promotes rape culture. If you haven’t heard this song it is a romantic skit involving a couple enjoying some time alone and the hour is getting late and the young woman announces that she needs to go not because she wants too but because she is worried about impropriety. The gentleman uses every excuse he can think of to get her to stay a little longer and in the end, he convinces her to stay. He doesn’t physically force or coerce her to stay and in fact, the tone used throughout the song suggests that the woman is enjoying the attention and open to staying.  When you look at the history of the song it was written by Frank Loesser and he wrote this for his wife and they performed this song as a duet, it was meant to be a love song.

This song has nothing to do with rape culture and it doesn’t illustrate a sexual assault. This song is really nothing more than a window into the past illustrating the societal norms applied to young men and women of the day. While I don’t believe in censorship I can list quite a few modern songs that have offensive lyrics that promote violence and sexual assault but no one is going after those songs. What is happening to this world we live in? We live in a society where people are okay with casual sex, abortion, and violence towards those they disagree with yet a Christmas song written 74 years ago triggers outrage.

The real problem here is that society has gone crazy. The feminist movement is no longer about gaining equality for women it is about stripping men of their power. As a mother to boys, I worry about what the future looks like for them. Do I have to worry that their first kiss will be classified as a sexual assault? I sincerely hope not but if we keep going down this path I am afraid that this fear will become a reality. All I can do is raise my own children to be respectful and mindful of their actions. I know that a lot of people are going to disagree with me on this but I really think that banning a song from 74 years ago is crossing over a line. Soon we will have to censor everything and what will we lose in the process only our first amendment rights.

 

http://frankloesser.com/news/213-baby-its-cold-outside-the-real-story-of-the-song

https://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/ohio-radio-station-stops-playing-baby-its-cold-outside-amid-me-too-movement

https://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/shehim/babyitscoldoutside.html

 

 

The World Is A Scary Place

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Life in the United States has become fraught with political, racial and sexual tension. You can’t turn on the television or open a paper without being inundated with all of the anger and animosity being played out all across the country. It’s scary for me as an adult to witness all this turmoil and its even scarier for my kids. My husband and I have chosen to not shelter our children from the chaos of the world instead we have used current events to inspire discussion. Through discussion, we have been able to answer a lot of their questions and we have helped them feel safe in this scary world. I believe that change starts small and that by raising my children to be intelligent, honest, and compassionate people they will become productive adults who can impact the world positively.

Knowing that I am raising good people does my heart good and fills me with hope for the future but still, I am exhausted by all of the anger. What happened to civility? Why can’t people share different opinions with each other and engage in civil discussion? We should celebrate our differences in opinion and work to find common ground. Instead, people are happy to tear one another apart, disown family members, shame one another and verbally and physically assault others. History has shown us so many times in the past the consequence of not finding common ground. It was a 156 years ago when political, racial and sexual tensions ripped this nation apart and started the Civil War. I wish people would stop and think about their actions and reevaluate what is important.

This is the advice that I have given to my children: Treat others with respect and use your voice to calmly express your opinions because nobody understands someone who is yelling. Always try to view the situation from someone else’s perspective and do not let pride, anger or passion prevent you from seeing the truth. If you are passionate about something make sure you have researched your opinion so you can engage in intelligent debate. Most importantly never forget the value of honesty and integrity.

 

It’s not our differences that separate us in this world it is our actions.

                                                                                                          -Hectic Eclectic Mama