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Life in the United States has become fraught with political, racial and sexual tension. You can’t turn on the television or open a paper without being inundated with all of the anger and animosity being played out all across the country. It’s scary for me as an adult to witness all this turmoil and its even scarier for my kids. My husband and I have chosen to not shelter our children from the chaos of the world instead we have used current events to inspire discussion. Through discussion, we have been able to answer a lot of their questions and we have helped them feel safe in this scary world. I believe that change starts small and that by raising my children to be intelligent, honest, and compassionate people they will become productive adults who can impact the world positively.
Knowing that I am raising good people does my heart good and fills me with hope for the future but still, I am exhausted by all of the anger. What happened to civility? Why can’t people share different opinions with each other and engage in civil discussion? We should celebrate our differences in opinion and work to find common ground. Instead, people are happy to tear one another apart, disown family members, shame one another and verbally and physically assault others. History has shown us so many times in the past the consequence of not finding common ground. It was a 156 years ago when political, racial and sexual tensions ripped this nation apart and started the Civil War. I wish people would stop and think about their actions and reevaluate what is important.
This is the advice that I have given to my children: Treat others with respect and use your voice to calmly express your opinions because nobody understands someone who is yelling. Always try to view the situation from someone else’s perspective and do not let pride, anger or passion prevent you from seeing the truth. If you are passionate about something make sure you have researched your opinion so you can engage in intelligent debate. Most importantly never forget the value of honesty and integrity.
It’s not our differences that separate us in this world it is our actions.
-Hectic Eclectic Mama
If you have ever had the pleasure of owning a dog at some point in time you have watched that dog begin the impossible task of chasing its tail until it collapses into exhaustion. I have a dog that spends a great deal of time chasing her tail and I always find myself wondering what is going on in her head and today I learned firsthand how she feels and its absolute frustration. I have this insight because today I have spent the entire day chasing my own tail and it wasn’t until 5 pm this evening that I finally identified why I was chasing my tail, I forgot to drink coffee. I don’t know how I did this since I am pretty much 90% coffee and 10% water but somehow I forgot the most important part of my day outside of breathing.
I was telling my eleven year old that I was feeling a little more chaotic than usual and he pointed out that he hadn’t seen me drink any coffee. Apparently my kids pay close attention to my coffee consumption because they have learned that the secret to happy mama is an adequate supply of coffee. Now that I have received my daily dose of coffee I am feeling much better and more focused. I will be sure to not make this mistake again in fact I have already programmed my coffeemaker for tomorrow morning.
Today was one of those Hectic Eclectic days where I bounced out of bed and straight into the car and that is how I missed the most important part of my day. I think as parents we often forget to take care of ourselves but in order for us to be productive parents and adults we can’t forget to take a few minutes each day to do something simple like enjoy a cup of coffee. There would have been less chaos and frustration if I had remembered to take a minute for myself. If you are having an abnormally frustrating day and life just seems more complicated than it should take a minute to do something for yourself. Drink a cup of coffee, take a walk around the block or spend some time enjoying a little solitude.
Have you ever found yourself chasing your tail? What do you do to bring peace to your day?
If my life was a game it would be “Whack a Mole”. I feel like every time I can safely get my head above ground life comes by and gives me a good hard whack. Recently, I took a step back from a full-time schedule so I could adjust the balance of family, homeschool, and work. Unfortunately, my employer has decided to cut my entire departments hours so now while I am still working it’s not enough to really be a contribution. At the same time that my hours have been cut my youngest son, Daniel needs extensive dental work which requires quite a bit of money out of pocket to complete. I have spent the past few days trying to figure out what my next steps are in life and honestly, all I have been able to do at this point is give myself a headache.
I keep reminding myself that life is full of challenges and this is just another challenge that I need to overcome. Once I have made it past this little hurdle things will be good for awhile and I will be stronger for it. In the meantime, I am going to take this opportunity to focus on tightening our budget and reducing our overall expenses.
When life gets hard it’s important to give yourself time to process. I think it is perfectly okay to have a pity party as long as you limit it’s duration to under 48 hours. Once you have allowed yourself time to emotionally process the situation you can then look at things with a renewed perspective. Sometimes simply looking at things calmy can help you find the answers you are seeking. Another thing that has always helped me weather the storms in my life is to trust my faith in God. God has never let me down and even when things didn’t go the way I wanted them too things always have a way of working out.
How do you handle life’s challenges? If your life was a board game what would it be?